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(87 hits)I dont know if i am commitmentphobic or not, but i definetely dont want to get married. I guess that sounds easy to most ppl here, but its not for me. I come from India and have been brought up in a fairly conservative family. I am turning 24 next month and for everyone around me (mostly my Mom and Dad..... and friends too) the next natural step is marriage. Also considering that i have been in a happy stable relationship for almost 3 years with a wonderful, fun and extremely supportive guy, and am doing well in my career (I am an engineer), they seem to be just expecting it any moment. I cant seem to explain to anyone that my priorities are different. I dont want a home and family and kids and obligations and commitments. I want my life to myself, be free to travel or write or give up my job to meditate or watever else i want without hurting anyone else. My bf understands and loves me for it, but my parents just think that i dont love him enuf and are looking for better looking/richer guys for me (parents are allowed to do that in India). Is there something wrong with me?
- by Termite 362 Days ago
- Hell no there's nothing wrong with you! If you're happy where you are right now, stick with it. You don't need a big ceremony and a piece of paper to love somebody and want to be with them. You stand your ground. As soon as you take that marriage step, yo
- by Brenton H 362 Days ago
- Very well said Termite. I couldn't have said it better myself. You have to live YOUR life to the fullest. It is your life to live, and noone else's. You don't want to be 50 years old having regrets in life or thinking you didn't live your life that way you wanted to. If your boyfriend supports your decision and isn't pushing you then it sounds like you have a good thing going. Sit down and explain to your parents that their life isn't your life. Maybe they will understand, and if they don't well they will either come to terms with it or they won't. They aren't the ones who have to live with your decision!!!
- by mike radosevich 362 Days ago
- you should do what makes you happy. there is nothing selfish about wanting to do things for yourself. I think if people would take the time to be a ilttle more patient then there would be allot less divrces in this world. you do what gives you joy. you will probably be a bigger asset to society.
- by James Hunn 362 Days ago
- A lot of people have forgotten an old saying- "If it aint broke, don't fix it." I agree that if you feel that there are other things that you have prioritized over getting married at this time, definitely DON'T DO IT. I think that this is where people get hung up a lot. Family, society, and friends all put an expectation on things. Little by little though, we are realizing this and taking the proper steps in order to do away with "what was done when I was a lad." Many people get caught in these longterm relationships where the next step is marriage. No-one wants to be alone, but we are too chicken shit to leave what we have time, money and emotion in- the relationship. I say- FOCC that! Time heals all, and I would much rather have a lonely Christmas, than have to get a divorce. Take it for what it's worth- the truth sometimes hurts! Hunn